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“Love is the essential existential fact. It is our ultimate reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life.” –Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love

20140818-161911.jpgDay 7 – Feeling Complete

Today’s quote is from Fernando Pessoa. “To be great, be whole; Exclude nothing. Be whole in everything.”

Today’s centering thought is I am wholeness.

Today’s Sanskrit mantra is Sarvatva, which means “I am wholeness.”

From today’s message:
The feeling of completion is an important part of inner happiness. Feeling complete means we feel whole. We glimpse the vastness of our higher self and know we do not lack anything. We have everything we need within us; we are everything we need.”

The seventh day of Oprah and Deepak Chopra’s Expanding Your Happiness Meditation Experience is about what it means to be complete.

You complete me.” Now what woman did not feel at least a smidgeon of emotion stir inside her when she first heard those words from the movie, Jerry McGuire.

We all have, at one point or another, learned from someone else, from society, even from the media, that we are not complete, unless we have a successful job, high status, mounds of money, or someone by our side.

But all these things bring only momentary happiness. Without the happiness from the unchanging within, we can’t appreciate all that we have.

Without the happiness from within, if we lose any or all of what we thought would make us happy, what happens next? Would our world crumble?

As I grew stronger in my Spiritual path and my self-love, I started to understand the meaning of being complete…

In an old post called “Free Floating, Patched Up Heart”, I wrote that I felt I needed to heal my heart to be whole. I didn’t want to meet a man to fix or complete me. I wanted my heart whole so when I gave my love, it will be because I am sharing love and happiness with someone else.

Self-love, forgiveness, and self-acceptance… These will make you whole. I know… I’ve been there, done them, and continue to do them. A year’s worth of meditation helped a ton too! All of these helped me find joy, happiness, and fulfillment in my life. They gave me the wonderful awareness that I am enough.

Deepak said that “lasting happiness isn’t attained through money, status, power, or pleasure. It’s attained through inner fulfillment, and inner fulfillment depends on being whole. When we feel complete, we don’t have empty spaces inside that need to be filled.”

Link:
Visit The Chopra Center to sign up for the free 21-day meditation experience.

(Image and course information are courtesy of The Chopra Center.)

Older posts regarding my meditation journey:
Day 1 – Feeling Joy
Day 2 – Feeling Inspired
Day 3 – Feeling Peace
Day 4 – Feeling Love
Day 5 – Feeling Playful
Day 6 – Feeling Hope

20140726-083832.jpgDay 5 – Love and Meditation Should Go Hand in Hand

Thought for the day: I ground my love through daily meditation

Daily Quote:
Be ordinary. Nothing is wrong with ordinariness, because in your very ordinariness you are extraordinary.” ~Osho

Today’s message from Osho is about how Love and Meditation together will bring you harmony.

Going within… To calm yourself, your mind… will give you the chance to find clarity and solutions to any problems, including those arising from love.

Funny how I just wrote that–“problems arising from love.” Lately, I have been thinking how the idea of love can get so blurred. Love is the ultimate gift, but sometimes it gets terribly blamed for all sorts of things between people.

It is an innocent bystander, but sometimes it is used to close one’s heart, i.e. “I have loved, got hurt, don’t want to love again.” Sometimes it is used as a weapon, i.e. “I can’t believe I ever loved someone like you.” I could go on and on with more examples from what is happening in our society today.

Imagine if even only one person in a relationship meditate. This person will have found the gift of self-love, would have the clarity and focus to steer drama away and find solutions to couple problems he/she can bring to the table.

Imagine if both people meditate. They will probably have more love to give to one another, more harmony, less drama, and less strain.

The message followed with a lesson in meditation where you imagine your heart center (chakra) as a bud. You could choose any flower you wish. You expel all the air in your lungs, pause, and when the air rushes back in, allow the petals of your flower to bloom.

What a beautiful meditation! It’s a moment where you are allowing your “heart” to open, allowing for self-love, and allowing for love to grow for others.

This meditation can also be used when you are feeling anxious, jealous, etc., to let love back in! I really like day 5’s lesson.

From the course:
When you are in love, don’t forget meditation… Love is only going to show you who you are, where you are. And it is good that love makes you alert…Now is the time to meditate. If love and meditation go together, you will have both wings, you will have a balance. Love and meditate, meditate and love, and slowly, slowly you will see a new harmony arising in you. Only that harmony will make you contented.”

(Disclaimer: All images and meditations are from Osho’s 21-day meditation series by Mentors Channel.)

Related Links:
Osho: A Course In Meditation, 21 Day Workout For Your Consciousness (visit to register, it’s free).

Mentors Channel

Older posts regarding my meditation journey:
Day 1: Strength Through Devotion
Day 2: Meditations on Love and Relationship
Day 3: Meditations On Anger
Day 4: The Art of Living in Balance

20140722-213844.jpgDay 2 – Meditations on Love and Relationship

Thought for the day: I am ready to experience love in every moment of my life

Daily Quote: “Sometimes lovers feel that when love is there, they are not. To feel this in love is easy because love is gratifying, but to feel it in hate is difficult because hate is not gratifying. Lovers, deep lovers, have felt that it is not that they “love” – love is not an activity – rather, they have become love.” ~Osho

Today’s message from Osho is L O V E.

Osho wanted to convey the difference between a “relationship” and “relating.”

Here is an excerpt:
“Relationship means something complete, finished, closed. Love is never a relationship; love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not like a novel that starts at a certain point and ends at a certain point. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues.”

I love the part, “love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends.” Relationships are hard work, and from my past (and those of others) and all that I have been learning through self-love and what love truly means to me, I feel it is important to cultivate love and gratefulness for the other person.

It takes two to be a loving pair, and if love is the foremost force or energy between two people, and all actions are based on love and through loving intentions, I believe love continues and grow to new heights.

Osho’s course today also provided two meditations. The first is for self-love. The second one is for couple work.

Self-love is important. If a person cannot love him/herself, he/she is incapable of loving others.

(Disclaimer: All images and meditations are from Osho’s 21-day meditation series by Mentors Channel.)

Related Links:
Osho: A Course In Meditation, 21 Day Workout For Your Consciousness (visit to register, it’s free).

Mentors Channel

Older posts regarding my meditation journey:
Day 1: Strength Through Devotion

20140712-232340.jpgI am grateful and happy for my meditation playlist. This particular set works with self-love and acceptance, heals, breaks fears, and cleanses.

Links:
Acceptance and Self Love Meditation

20140619-222232.jpgI love this book. I haven’t even read it fully or even in order, but I often open it for advice, like bibliomancy. (You ask a question, open the book randomly, read what it says, and see how it pertains to or help your situation.)

This book by Sonia Choquette is full of great advice about self-love and how to get in touch with your wonderful Spirit within. I am grateful to have it, as it is my go to book, when I need advice.

20140508-152939.jpgI read a post earlier that I felt compelled to comment on. The blogger didn’t feel good about buying things for herself for the longest time. Sometimes it was about money and sometimes, it made her feel better giving to someone else, rather than giving to herself.

I used to be that person, and that was why I felt compelled to remind her that she is deserving too, and so are you.

Self-care, Self-worth… They come from Self-love. You are worthy. You are deserving. It is okay to buy something for yourself. It is okay to do something good for yourself. It is okay to treat yourself as well as you treat others.

Also, treating yourself doesn’t have to cost a thing. It could be some alone, uninterrupted time, when you can do something like nap, read a magazine or book from the library, or go for a walk and enjoy nature. You can spend that time doing something that makes you utterly happy.

Perhaps these can give some ideas:
Remember Someone Important
What Makes Your Heart Happy?
Feel Good Day

20140412-200356.jpgI need to backtrack to a few posts, because they need some attention.  So here we go…

20140111-205612.jpgLiebster Award: Tina Pumfrey was wonderfuly kind to nominate me for the Liebster Award, but I have not completed the acceptance.  I need to answer her questions, compile a list of nominees, and also create 10 questions to ask. I hope to complete this before end of month.

Related Post: Day 92/365: Award, Play, and Learn

20140129-235632.jpgThe 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse: I wanted to do Debbie Ford’s Consciousness Cleanse to release barriers, release resistance, and to release fears (especially pertaining to love).  I was very excited to start this cleanse, but it took me a long while to go through and understand what it required me to do.  Still I had a hard time with the exercises, and I wasn’t getting the most out of it as I had hoped.

A part of the problem was that I became distracted with some others books I had acquired that I wanted to try and seemed more compatible with.  I still want to try this, but probably after I get through the other books and meditations (including Kimberly Saeed’s Amazing Meditation on Acceptance and Self-Love and the upcoming Oprah and Deepak’s Finding Your Flow meditation journey).

Related Post: Day 108/365: Breaking Fears and Barriers

TTF1

Bucket List: Trust The Flow # 1: As mentioned in my blog post, this was a very hard item for me to do.  I didn’t mention what I was doing, but I will let you know what I was trying to do–which was to just surrender and let go completely for 30 – 60 days.  I was going to mindfully do this and not control the outcome of any situation.  I was going to trust in the natural unfolding of events in my life and let God.

It started well.  I had some minor and profound experiences during the first couple of weeks. However, soon after that, we had a series of family emergencies (and some miracles from them too).  Uncle M, by the way, is doing well, and healing, albeit slow.  After his immediate family was told to make a decision regarding his life, he pulled through.  The family is hopeful that he will recover as much as possible, from his diagnosis. Eventually, I also succumbed to stress and a crazy schedule–which brought on a minor set back of my own.

I started to have a hard time with this journey, and I started to resist.  I couldn’t stay mindful every moment.  So I need a do over.  I’m glad, that for some things in our lives, we can do that.

What I did notice was that I have been trying to surrender and let go, especially when I was having a hard time, during the last few months.  It wasn’t every moment, but I think surrendering and letting go has become easier.  Expecting miracles has become easier.  Resistance has become less and less, and I was beginning to trust more and more.

I am starting again this coming Monday.  I am going to surrender and let go for 45 days.  This will be a great time to start for me and 45 days will be a great length of time too, as my first bucket list trip is coming up soon. How incredible to surrender and let go to absolutely new places, discoveries, experiences, and adventures…

Related Post: Bucket List: Trust The Flow #1

 

Disclaimer: The Maxine image is from maxine.com.

I am grateful for my cousin, E, for sending me this information about Kimberly Saeed‘s post sharing a beautiful meditation that is truly wonderful and amazing.

I tried it last night before sleeping, and I not only felt a really powerful experience but also slept very well. When I awoke early this morning, I did my second day, and I feel so light and free right now and I also feel my body so much more revitalized. Thank you, Kimberly Saeed, for this beautiful meditation and for your blog.

Reference:

Kimberly Saeed’s post on her amazing Guided Meditation for Acceptance and Self-Love

forgive

I finished the 6-week course of May Cause Miracles by Gabrielle Bernstein.  This book helped me go through and release a lot of my remaining fears, as well as forgive a lot more.

The exercise that really made an impact was the last forgiveness exercise in week 6 where you write a letter of forgiveness to the person or organization that hurt you the most. I tweaked the exercise a little and wrote forgiveness letters to everyone that still seemed to have a hold on me and included the following:

  • What the person did that hurt me
  • Why I am still angry or resentful
  • I forgive the person
  • Why I forgive the person

I wrote the letters in document form. Once I was done and I reread them, I made the decision to release all the letters and the pain associated with them.  Then I deleted the file.

Afterwards, I felt so liberated, and it’s been a couple of days, and I still feel liberated.  The remaining pain, anger, and resentment I kept were all released, and I believe it was because I wrote down exactly how I was hurt, why I was still angry or resentful, and the reason for forgiveness… which was, in most cases, because I no longer wanted to suffer and be angry or resentful anymore.  I just wanted to move on and be happy.  Had I known I could feel so free, I would have done this ages ago!

I am grateful for writing those forgiveness letters. They truly did set me free!

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