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20140826-201238.jpgI am always grateful to read Evan Sanders’ blog posts. His blog is The Better Man Project.

But today, he wrote a piece that truly touched me deeply, and I wanted to share it.

It’s about love and loving deeply, passionately, vulnerably, and without fear.

It’s about choosing love over fear, and with that choice, a deeper and more profound love can be shared.

O Love Rare

Disclaimer:
Image by Evan Sanders of “The Better Man Projects

20140730-162530.jpgThanks to Bodymindspirit1021 via instagram for sharing this image. I had to regram it!

“Everyone is scared of being the one who cares too much, love too much – this is why relationships fall apart.”

How true is this? Love is a gift, but it is also kinda scary.

I, for one, have the capacity to love and care deeply and that is especially scary to me. We need to learn for ourselves how to feel safe and secure to care and love deeply, regardless of the outcome.

To share love is a beautiful gift. To share love unconditionally is the ultimate gift–certainly to the other person, but more so as a gift to our own selves.

It means that our hearts have expanded and we have become aware of love and the connection we all share with each other.

This gift makes us more empathetic, kind, grateful to one another, compassionate, and considerate to one another. We would, in our own way, help make this world a better place not only for ourselves and our loved ones, but for others too. How cool is that?

Link to my instagram post:

20140722-213844.jpgDay 2 – Meditations on Love and Relationship

Thought for the day: I am ready to experience love in every moment of my life

Daily Quote: “Sometimes lovers feel that when love is there, they are not. To feel this in love is easy because love is gratifying, but to feel it in hate is difficult because hate is not gratifying. Lovers, deep lovers, have felt that it is not that they “love” – love is not an activity – rather, they have become love.” ~Osho

Today’s message from Osho is L O V E.

Osho wanted to convey the difference between a “relationship” and “relating.”

Here is an excerpt:
“Relationship means something complete, finished, closed. Love is never a relationship; love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not like a novel that starts at a certain point and ends at a certain point. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues.”

I love the part, “love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends.” Relationships are hard work, and from my past (and those of others) and all that I have been learning through self-love and what love truly means to me, I feel it is important to cultivate love and gratefulness for the other person.

It takes two to be a loving pair, and if love is the foremost force or energy between two people, and all actions are based on love and through loving intentions, I believe love continues and grow to new heights.

Osho’s course today also provided two meditations. The first is for self-love. The second one is for couple work.

Self-love is important. If a person cannot love him/herself, he/she is incapable of loving others.

(Disclaimer: All images and meditations are from Osho’s 21-day meditation series by Mentors Channel.)

Related Links:
Osho: A Course In Meditation, 21 Day Workout For Your Consciousness (visit to register, it’s free).

Mentors Channel

Older posts regarding my meditation journey:
Day 1: Strength Through Devotion

There is a saying that “all good things must come to an end.” Then the same must be true that “all bad things must come to an end,” too.

Over the last (and many) weeks, I have struggled with something. And isn’t it terrible when something like this comes when your plate is already full?

That something has to do with a person and the past. It seemed like everything reminded me of this man, and as memories, both good and bad, flooded, more thinking (and overthinking) happened–until it got to a point when the memories were encroaching into my life more and more. I also got to the point when I wanted it to stop, and the only way to stop it, is to face it.

Facing something that bothers you require being honest with yourself, so I knew that while I had good memories with this man, I also had bad ones. Was it worth it to me to dwell on what was and what it didn’t become?

Interestingly enough, it was in watching this season’s episode 3 of The Little Couple on demand that really made me stop and take a closer look at my current situation.

In episode 3, Jennifer Arnold went through chemotherapy for her stage 3 cancer and her husband, Bill Klein, was very loving and supportive–and in all previous episodes, you can feel their love and support for each other.

So I asked myself… “Isn’t this the kind of relationship you want for yourself, Mercedita?”

I want a mutually very loving, healthy, and supportive relationship. What I had with this man, was not that. So why was I continuing to dwell on something or someone that wasn’t good for me or what I want?

I remind myself that I have a choice, and as if to make a point, episode 3 came on soon after–maybe to encourage me to make a good one.

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