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I was waiting to see my Specialist and found this article on how to live without regrets from “More” magazine.

It is again a good reminder on how to live a life without regrets. In the article’s case, to release a long-held regret, the writer had to fulfill a promise she wasn’t able to complete many years before. In doing so, she was able to let go of the guilt and sadness she felt for that broken promise.

I believe that we each have some regrets in life. Some are easier to mend, some may not be… Some may even require some changes in ourselves or our situation… Whatever it is, may each of us find a way to let go of regrets that keep us from living life happily and fully.

I am grateful to my good friend, S. She is really great about sending me stuff to read and learn from. She sent me a link the other day about the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed, written by a palliative nurse, Bronnie Ware.

And they are…

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

In reading this, I can understand why these are regrets.  I feel that they are so connected in many ways. Personally, I am glad to have worked on all five of these over the years.

For #1, I actually rebelled while in college during my undergrad work.  My parents really wanted me to be a doctor, and I did want to be one at one point, and was able to be a part of a competitive program.  However, I found out something else I wanted to do while in college, and I remember that time being very difficult and strained.  In time, my parents understood.  In recent years, I have become much truer to myself and have started to lead a more authentic life.

The next one, #2, is the hardest one for me and I am still working on that.  I have the workaholic gene, I think.  HaHa.  However, I am learning to balance my life–to spend more time in pursuit of things I love to do and to spend more time with those I care for.

Expressing feelings, #3, is easy for me, but not so easy with the opposite sex if I am interested in them. So, this is a work in progress.

I do not have a problem with #4. I stay in touch with my precious friends.

For #5, I do my best each day to lead a happy life. I believe that is how we should live.

I used to mentor pre-teens and teenagers and I would often tell them (and my cousins and sister) to do what they love to do and not regret their life.  I think it is important for them to hear this so that they can make a good choice about how to lead their happy lives. Bronnie Ware ended the article with these words that ring so true to me, “Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.”

I am grateful that Bronnie Ware wrote an article on the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed, in hopes that others could really look at their lives to see if there is anything they can change to live a very authentic, fulfilling, and happy life.


Top 5 Regrets

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