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Prompt: Friday, January 31, 2014
Did you feel a lot of pressure with January’s NaBloPoMo ?

Not at all. This was probably the easiest thing! It was the other happenings with the family that brought on the pressure.

Thanks for a wonderful NaBloPoMo experience! Thank you, Dear Readers, for reading my contributions.

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Prompt: Thursday, January 30, 2014
If you could persuade people to do one thing right now, what would it be?

I would persuade them to be kind. Every little act of kindness adds up, and brings peace to the world.

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Prompt: Wednesday, January 29, 2014
Are you good at influencing other people?

Maybe. I think I can relate to many different people because of my various interests and inquisitive nature. I am always learning and growing. Sometimes I share my lessons and experiences, and maybe others relate to them and find them useful.

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Prompt: Tuesday, January 28, 2014
Which of your responsibilities stress you out the most?

Familial responsibilities have a way of getting to me, especially during trying times. Although I can remain pretty calm even when things are really bad, it is when the others are having a hard time that can really get to me.

Yesterday morning, when Auntie J received the news that her husband had a cardiac arrest (although revived), she let out a soulful wail and broke down. Auntie would joke that she and I are similar and I should have been her kid.

Hearing her yesterday morning, I think I may do the same, faced with similar scenarios. I am working on having a truly, unwaveringly open heart, but I am really scared.

I know I am the type to love with all of me; hence, the reason why I fear to love and have never been in love. I fear that loving fully this way may break me. It has been a daily process for me to work on releasing this fear because I do want to be with my Imzadi and have my little family one day.

I can deal with anything that comes my way. I know I am strong and capable, but anything to do with family is what stresses me out the most, because it is a very important part of my life.

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Prompt: Monday, January 27, 2014
What puts more pressure on you: Time constraints or achieving perfection?

Achieving perfection, definitely. This was more pronounced when I was younger, but I have been learning acceptance over the years, because I now believe that my idea of perfection is skewed. I also now believe that the real competition is really with myself, not really with others, and this is mostly for self-betterment… to be a better person, woman, human being, etc.

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Prompt: Friday, January 24, 2014
Does pressure ever make you want to rebel and do the exact opposite of what is being asked of you?

Yes! I’m Aquarius! Just kidding, mostly…

I am working on this, but whenever something impinges on my freedom, my first inclination is to rebel (stand up for myself) or run away.

So when I am pressured to do something that I am not inclined to do, I think about what my lawyer dad told me as a kid which is to “choose your battles.” Sometimes you just need to do something you don’t like or want, even just to keep the peace. I do those as quickly as I can.

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Prompt: Thursday, January 23, 2014
Do you think it’s possible to control your temper when facing enormous pressure?

Yes. It’s a matter of choice to not let it get in the way, or reuse that energy by changing my perspective and attitude to get work done quickly or get through the pressure.

It is always possible to change one’s internal attitude, even if one cannot control external factors.

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Prompt: Wednesday, January 22, 2014
Do you have a bad temper? How often do you lose your temper?

I don’t really have a bad temper. I have a high tolerance, so I usually can take most things, and also from having a “live and let live” attitude. However, if I am dealing with someone who is messed up on a regular basis, once my threshold of tolerance is hit, I might start to steam inside and get angry, but more than likely, I’d just walk away.

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Prompt: Tuesday, January 21, 2014
Do you feel pressure to be perfect? How much of it is tied to what you see online?

When I was working to heal and make my body stronger, I realized that the only competition I truly had was with myself. I think that was when I realized I shouldn’t compare myself to others anymore. I am different, my body is different, my life is different, my life path is different… The only thing that mattered was to get better and to just live the best possible life that I could.

Yeah, sometimes, you can’t help but see things on TV or online and want, but I just remember how far I’ve come, what I’ve learned, and what’s important to me. In the end, I just want to be me.

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Prompt: Monday, January 20, 2014
Do you still feel pressure to conform? If no, what age did it stop?

This prompt made me think.

I emigrated to the United States as a child.  When my parents were registering me into elementary school, I heard the counselor tell my mom to speak only in English to me outside of school.  I went to a trilingual school where English was one of the languages taught, so that helped, but I think this paved the way for my family to start conforming to the ways of this country.

I think we are still conforming today. I don’t think it is a pressured conformity, but more like a “when in Rome, do as the Romans do” type of thing.  Personally, I feel this in both my business and social worlds.  There are rules in behaviors that I follow because it’s the norm.

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