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I am grateful to my dear friend, Geri! She picked me up from the airport, and help me to find witch hazel and caladryl, because I unfortunately received insect bites while running around in the woods in Lily Dale.

(For 8/13/14)

20140802-125829.jpgYou know you have an awesome, fabuloso friend when she would pick up these snacks for you, cleaning out two checkout lanes at her Trader Joe’s in a city of healthy eaters (and having to face weird stares because she’s buying all these meat stick snacks), because your Trader Joe’s at a less healthy city, sold out of them! HaHa!

Thank you, Sheilani!

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20140801-215819.jpgWe met Lalah Hathaway last night!

I have known Sheilani (or “S” in previous posts) since Junior High when I first moved to Northern California, but it was over the last few years that we have gotten closer, and she has helped me a great deal through a couple of rough patches with men and dating and most especially with my Spiritual growing pains. To find someone who could relate and even understand my Spiritual growing pains was truly a gift to me.

Sheilani is also a local musician with a strong background in Jazz. She was instrumental in introducing me to Jazz music and to a lot of local performers and musicians.

One night, a year or so ago, she took me to a Lalah Hathaway show. She is one of Sheilani‘s favorites. I truly enjoyed the Jazzy, R&B, and Soul event, and Ms. Hathaway was not only an incredible singer and performer, but hilarious as well.

A few months ago, I happened to read one of the event e-mails from Yoshi’s Oakland. It was not a norm for me to open e-mails for adverts or announcements (I still have got 9000+ I need to delete from my inbox), but I read Yoshi’s that day. It had the lineup for the Summer season, and Ms. Hathaway was performing.

So I bought the tickets immediately, and the Meet and Greet portion of the event.

I still remember the text (it is also still on my phone HaHa) when I told her of her early birthday present. She was flabbergasted.

Last night, we met Lalah Hathaway personally and had premier seating to her show. We had one of the best views and experiences!

I am grateful that I was able to gift Sheilani with a present she could truly remember. She has been such a gift of a friend… no… Soul Sister to me, and I am honored to know her.

My favorite Lalah Hathaway song

Sheilani’s website

(For 8/1/14 – what happens when two good, female friends meet up and hang out? We ate fried snacks, sweets, and gabbed until the wee hours of the morning! That is why this was late. 😁)

I am grateful to my good friend, S. She is really great about sending me stuff to read and learn from. She sent me a link the other day about the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed, written by a palliative nurse, Bronnie Ware.

And they are…

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

In reading this, I can understand why these are regrets.  I feel that they are so connected in many ways. Personally, I am glad to have worked on all five of these over the years.

For #1, I actually rebelled while in college during my undergrad work.  My parents really wanted me to be a doctor, and I did want to be one at one point, and was able to be a part of a competitive program.  However, I found out something else I wanted to do while in college, and I remember that time being very difficult and strained.  In time, my parents understood.  In recent years, I have become much truer to myself and have started to lead a more authentic life.

The next one, #2, is the hardest one for me and I am still working on that.  I have the workaholic gene, I think.  HaHa.  However, I am learning to balance my life–to spend more time in pursuit of things I love to do and to spend more time with those I care for.

Expressing feelings, #3, is easy for me, but not so easy with the opposite sex if I am interested in them. So, this is a work in progress.

I do not have a problem with #4. I stay in touch with my precious friends.

For #5, I do my best each day to lead a happy life. I believe that is how we should live.

I used to mentor pre-teens and teenagers and I would often tell them (and my cousins and sister) to do what they love to do and not regret their life.  I think it is important for them to hear this so that they can make a good choice about how to lead their happy lives. Bronnie Ware ended the article with these words that ring so true to me, “Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.”

I am grateful that Bronnie Ware wrote an article on the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed, in hopes that others could really look at their lives to see if there is anything they can change to live a very authentic, fulfilling, and happy life.


Top 5 Regrets

We all have them… The very few we can go to and have a cry. The very few we can bare our souls to and are still around. The very few who will always have our backs. The very few who will always lift us up. The very few we choose as family.

Today, I am grateful to my very few. May their lives be full of happiness, blessings, and joy.

I am grateful for my Uncle O. and Auntie R. who love me so much, they woke up at 4:00 a.m. to take me to the airport for my early morning flight.

I am grateful to hear Bruno Mars’ song, “Treasure,” soon after requesting a song for inspiration from God.

I am grateful for this tasty meal at the airport. It really warded off the cold, but it really looked like it was staring at me while I ate! ;D

I am grateful for my friend G., who picked me up from the airport!

I am grateful for my Mom and Sis who took care of my mini panther while I was away.

I am grateful to know that my friend, R., looked well when I visited the hospital, and may be discharged soon.

I am grateful for the chance to help my friend, S., with her CD release party, and to have watched a fantastic show!

(For 10/27/13)

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