Thanks to Bodymindspirit1021 via instagram for sharing this image. I had to regram it!
“Everyone is scared of being the one who cares too much, love too much – this is why relationships fall apart.”
How true is this? Love is a gift, but it is also kinda scary.
I, for one, have the capacity to love and care deeply and that is especially scary to me. We need to learn for ourselves how to feel safe and secure to care and love deeply, regardless of the outcome.
To share love is a beautiful gift. To share love unconditionally is the ultimate gift–certainly to the other person, but more so as a gift to our own selves.
It means that our hearts have expanded and we have become aware of love and the connection we all share with each other.
This gift makes us more empathetic, kind, grateful to one another, compassionate, and considerate to one another. We would, in our own way, help make this world a better place not only for ourselves and our loved ones, but for others too. How cool is that?
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Thank you, Madhuri! 😊💐
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Its my pleasure 😀
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Yes! I decided a while ago, that I would not be the one who was scared to love too much…hard to do some days!
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💐 What was the turning point for you, if I might ask?
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Good question. I had done a lot of work on myself with being authentic and vulnerable, taking risks and putting my real self out there kindly because I had lived my entire life armored up and posturing for fear of getting hurt…of course I still got hurt but lived my life emotionally blunted. So it was a slow journey of really hard practice. And there was one moment, after the end of a relationship that I was truly myself and gave love unconditionally in, I was having a hard time with the loss of it. And one day, I just realized no, I was done with being afraid of love. I will get hurt in life. But I want to feel the joy too, and to do so, I cannot be the one who is scared to love too much. If I am, I only feel the pain…sorry for the long answer!
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No, thank you for sharing and I am sorry if I may have opened up a can of worm. I am in a “scary” situation and I am fighting a couple of old fears that crept up and fighting also the old self-sabotaging ways. I know what I have to do, but it’s a lot of hard work. I am just wondering if it gets easier
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No, no–no worries on opening a can of worms. I’m in a good place about it all, I just didn’t want to ramble, as it’s not a short answer. Fighting old fears and old reflexive behaviors is really hard. You are brave to do so. Knowing you self-sabotage is courageous. It is scary, life, love, risk–all scary. Does it get easier? In some ways, yes, like any muscle, practice practice practice, to make that your new behaviors. Does it hurt when it hurts? Yes. Of course. But I’ve found the hurt is different. Because in this new place of choosing new behaviors, I know the hurts aren’t personal–the losses have nothing to do with me if I’ve been kind and truthful and given unconditional love the best I could. Hurts still, but it’s different….does that make sense? Choosing new behaviors gets easier. I tell my kids all the time–we do hard things, and we can be brave and scared at the same time. I know you can too 🙂 I’m here for you!! ❤
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Thanks! 💐 You are right, it will be different coming from a place of love. I needed the reminder. I have been telling myself not to take things personally. Interestingly enough, yesterday I asked for a sign. I had music in random shuffle and I asked about the situation and how to deal with it and the fear, and I got “Unconditionally,” then “Safe and Sound.” I asked for validation and got the same two songs again, back to back. I feel that the message is that no matter what, it will be okay. I will be safe. I just need to be brave to experience and grow with this new situation. Thank you. I feel so much better with your responses. Still scared but feel better. 😊
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Good for you! I’m a big believer in signs too. And yes, you will be OK no matter what, because no matter what circumstance, you still have you, and so long as you try your best, and apologize for when you don’t (we all mess up!), so long as you are kind to yourself and others, always, always things will be ok. Even if it hurts. Growth happens outside our comfort zone…If the only thing stopping you from doing something is fear, it’s not a very valid reason. Be the Brave that you know you are. It’s ok to be brave and scared simultaneously 🙂 I’m thinking of you, sending you warm thoughts of strength and love!!!
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Thank you for this too. Great words and reminders! I feel uplifted! I am returning in kind. You are awesome!
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Thank you! Don’t lose sight also that YOU are awesome too!!! Your post reminded me of a similar one I wrote that may (or may not!) be helpful to you?
http://bonnevivantelife.wordpress.com/2014/04/18/love-wins/
and this is actually the post where I used the words not being afraid to love the most 🙂 and it talks a bit about practice of this! Again, hope it’s helpful!!
http://bonnevivantelife.wordpress.com/2014/02/23/put-the-armor-down-be-vulnerable-marinate/
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Double thanks! I will check them out. I think I have read at least one if not both. You have been so helpful. 💐🙏😁
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Keep me posted if you feel comfortable doing so, and no worries if not! You’re not alone in this scary world, and it feels better knowing we’re in this together! Hugs, and have a great night!
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That’s very empowering. I feel better knowing we can support each other. Hugs back! Great night to you also.
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