There is a saying that “all good things must come to an end.” Then the same must be true that “all bad things must come to an end,” too.

Over the last (and many) weeks, I have struggled with something. And isn’t it terrible when something like this comes when your plate is already full?

That something has to do with a person and the past. It seemed like everything reminded me of this man, and as memories, both good and bad, flooded, more thinking (and overthinking) happened–until it got to a point when the memories were encroaching into my life more and more. I also got to the point when I wanted it to stop, and the only way to stop it, is to face it.

Facing something that bothers you require being honest with yourself, so I knew that while I had good memories with this man, I also had bad ones. Was it worth it to me to dwell on what was and what it didn’t become?

Interestingly enough, it was in watching this season’s episode 3 of The Little Couple on demand that really made me stop and take a closer look at my current situation.

In episode 3, Jennifer Arnold went through chemotherapy for her stage 3 cancer and her husband, Bill Klein, was very loving and supportive–and in all previous episodes, you can feel their love and support for each other.

So I asked myself… “Isn’t this the kind of relationship you want for yourself, Mercedita?”

I want a mutually very loving, healthy, and supportive relationship. What I had with this man, was not that. So why was I continuing to dwell on something or someone that wasn’t good for me or what I want?

I remind myself that I have a choice, and as if to make a point, episode 3 came on soon after–maybe to encourage me to make a good one.