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There are a lot for me to be grateful for today, especially for heat and electricity–these things I shouldn’t take for granted. I must always be aware and thankful that I am in a country where these are easily accessible, but I learned something else important to me.

Yesterday, I wrote about David Steindl-Rast’s TEDTalk on gratefulness. To be happy, we must be grateful and enjoy each given moment. To be open to the opportunity of a given moment, we must slow down and be in the present now.

One of my fears is the future, as it relates to men, love, and relationships. Before I would get too close with a man, I would self-sabotage or end it for many reasons relating to what I had experienced in the past. I had written this fear down and faced this fear the other day, and the best thing I could come up with to deal with it is to fully release the future.

I’ve tried doing that before and now I feel that I have been terribly half-hearted about those other times. When it comes to love when other people are involved, there’s no way of controlling the future. I can’t. I can only control myself.

Plus the only constant is change. What we do today can affect our future, so even if I was told I would meet someone who could change my life in a particular place on a particular day, but decide not to show up (maybe out of fear), for instance, then I lost that chance.

That is why it’s best to just live in the present–in the now, and just enjoy it fully. Let the future take care of itself, and instead, just enjoy the present (the gift) that is the “now.” I get it… now!

So today, I am grateful for “now.” I would like to end this post by sharing these lyrics from Katy Perry’s song, “This Moment.”

Do you ever think that
We’re just chasing our tails?
Like life is one big fast treadmill
And we pop what is prescribed
If it gets us first prize but you know
Who I
Who I think will win
Are the ones that let love in
Are the ones that take the time

All we have is this moment
Tomorrow’s unspoken
Yesterday is history
So why don’t you be here with me?

All we have is this moment
To put our love into motion
Yesterday is history
So why don’t you be here with me?
Be here with me now

Be here with me now
‘Cause the future is right now, right in front of you
Don’t let the clock, the clock tell you what to do
A future is right now, I’m in front of you
Baby don’t blink and miss

This moment

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